This is from Barbara in the USA:
Yesterday I said goodbye to my fraternal boy twin. It was a most amazing spiritual and significant experience--words can't quite do it! Accompanied by my friend Monica, I had THE MOST incredible farewell ceremony for Carl! I had decided three days earlier that I needed to say goodbye. We were done, it was over, and I was ready to move forward, and rapidly. The night before, I still had no idea how I wanted to say goodbye, but knew there was nothing tangible about him so there was nothing to tear, bury, burn, caress, hold. In the morning we bought lots of very healthy food for my house, to nourish myself, and one nice loaf of bread for Carl ("Old World Bread with Caraway (care-away!) Seeds"). We drove to a beautiful white, sandy beach in Connecticut on Long Island Sound, in perfect weather--sun, a nice breeze, clean white sand and wonderful beachy air. After hours of relaxing, sunbathing and dipping into the water, we decided it was the right time to say goodbye. As I was singing a song I chose in preparation for letting him go, two birds approached our blanket and sat in the sand, waiting. There was no time to finish that perfect song. They were not going to leave--NOW was the time! I jumped up, went to the edge of the water, and started throwing bits of bread. All the birds in the area heard about the free food and descended, eating happily as I was saying goodbye to Carl, running and dancing along the shore, laughing, throwing the bread, and watching all the LIFE that came to me as I was saying goodbye! I was nourishing living animals and giving Carl back to nature. Saying goodbye to one feeble dead being brought huge, happy, appreciative life to me, and even if it was for a short time (until the bread was gone), it was so symbolic of being a magnet for much more life ahead, by letting go of one little life that was keeping me back.
PS Some of the birds lingered with us, sitting and resting on the sand with full tummies!
Did YOU hold a ritual for your twin? Let us know what it was like, it is always a wonderful and uplifting story.
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